One thing I think about is how your perspective changes at different points in your life. It’s not just the case that you have a different perspective, but as you age, the amount of life experiences that you’ve had only increases. I’d imagine your parents divorcing when you’re thirteen is probably devastating, but if the same happened at forty, you’d probably cope much better. Having a major life event at thirteen is one of very few major impacts in your life, whereas by the time you’re forty, you’ve lived through way more and probably learned how to cope with better with major life changes.
I’m currently going through a phase where I’m learning to appreciate my connections with others. I think I’ve hit the twilight of my life about fifty years too early, because I feel about ready to keel over in a retirement home, as I reflect on all my missed connections and regrets in life. It’s a bit premature to declare my life completed, but I also kind of feel like at this point in my life, I’m pretty set in my ways, and even though I might have more major life changes like marriage and kids and career changes etc, my fundamental personality is probably fully formed now. When I was younger, I would think about exploring the endless different paths available to me in life and what kind of person I’d be. Now, I don’t really think about who I’m going to be anymore – I think about what I’m going to do with my life.